I've been thinking a lot about resilience lately – not the loud, dramatic kind that makes for a good movie montage, but the quieter kind. The kind that shows up when you get out of bed on a morning where everything feels too heavy. The kind that whispers 'just one more step' when your legs want to stop.
As a medium, I sit with people who have been through unimaginable loss, heartbreak, and upheaval. And what I've come to understand is that resilience isn't about being unbreakable. It's about being willing to break and then slowly, gently, piece yourself back together – knowing full well that the new shape won't look like the old one.
There's a Japanese art called Kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold. The cracks aren't hidden – they're honoured. They become the most beautiful part of the piece. I think we are the same. Our fractures, our hard seasons, our moments of falling apart – they don't diminish us. They give us depth.
Spirit has shown me time and again that the soul chooses its challenges. Not as punishment, but as curriculum. Every difficult chapter is an invitation to discover something within you that you didn't know was there. And that discovery? That is resilience.
I've had my own seasons of feeling like I couldn't keep going. During my time away from readings, I dealt with my own profound loss – the kind I thought would break me. I lost both of my parents just two months apart. My dad went first, and then my mum. I wasn't even present for her passing – I was mid-flight back to Australia when she left. That stays with you. It changed me in ways I'm still understanding.
It didn't break me, but it did change me. Deeply. There's a version of me before that loss and a version after, and they are not the same person. Rebuilding my life and my practice from scratch, moving from Canada to the United States – there were days I questioned everything. But those days taught me something invaluable: I am more than my circumstances.
If you're in one of those seasons right now, I want you to hear this – you don't have to have it all figured out. You don't have to be brave every minute of every day. Resilience isn't the absence of tears or doubt. It's the willingness to keep showing up, even when you don't know what's coming next.
One thing I often share with my clients is to look back at every difficult thing you've already survived. Every single one. You're still here. That track record is extraordinary, even if it doesn't feel like it in the moment.
The universe doesn't give us more than our soul can handle – though our human selves might strongly disagree at times. Trust the process. Trust yourself. The gold is already inside the cracks.
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